Why Worrying Never Works
Most people will struggle with worry from time to time. It is something that is a part of life. We struggle daily with finances, health, making wise decisions and major changes in our lives. These things will often cause us to worry in one way or another. A certain amount of worry in our lives is normally, and sometimes beneficial to the choices we make. It assists us with focusing on what is right in front of us. However, when worry begins to consume us, we can begin to worry about things that are completely beyond our control.
Worrying can become a complete waste of time. Worry does not cause anything to change. We do not accomplish things to find the answers we are searching for by simply worrying. Worry can not only affect your mental and emotional health, but lead to ulcers and heart attacks.
You shouldn’t worry about things you are unable to control. Things such as your neighbor’s yard, the temperature outside, the dog barking down the street, when your favorite TV sitcom is going to be cancelled. Worrying about things that are beyond our control distract us from changing things that we are able to control.
If you are too busy focusing on your fears or things that may or may not happen you are not focusing on the present and the things that matter. Worrying about when the world will end or when the next major weather danger will hit does not make you more prepared for when and if it does. There is nothing wrong with being prepared for an event, but there is some damage to allowing it to consume your every thought.
If you find yourself constantly worrying, you should reevaluate the things that you are thinking about. If you find yourself worrying about how much you have to make at next month’s bake sale, what are you neglecting to think about that is currently happening.
Worrying does not just affect the person that is worrying. Your worrying will affect the people around you, too. Worrying is a major cause of tension in families. If you are worried about something that your spouse is unconcerned with, it can lead to arguments and hurt feelings. It can also cause misunderstandings and strain. Your spouse doesn’t want to see your worry and stress about things that they are unable to help with. Take into consideration how your worrying not only affects you, but the people in your life, as well.
When you begin to worry, ask yourself if this is something you are able to change. If it is, make a plan to take the appropriate steps to make a change. If it isn’t something you are able to control and change, let it go and think about things that are more productive to your life.